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Ever heard people whinging and b*tching about their life, blaming everyone and everything for the way things are? Hmmm, yep, we all know at least one person like that.
However, to be fair, we all probably have indulged in this type of behavior at some point in our lives be it briefly or longer.....maybe we still do in part?
Is there parts of our life that truly dissatisfy us? Do we find ourselves verbalising this in some way to others? Does it go around and around in our heads? Then it is time to stop.
Stop and do one of three things....embrace it, change it or leave. The more we complain or cogitate about our situation the less likelihood there is of us actually taking action.
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So, embrace it, change it or leave - let's look at each of these individually.
Each has merit, each has risk and each is very powerful if applied judiciously.
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Just deciding to embrace our situation and flourish despite our situation can be surprisingly powerful. Intentionally bringing the best out in a situation - juicing the orange - playing to our strengths - leveraging the possibilities....teaches us to take control and create our own reality despite the odds.
This is especially true in situations where life deals us a difficult hand e.g. sick or disabled children, partners or indeed our own health issues. We can either be a sum of our pain, or, rise above it and embrace the situation and leverage it to experience a purposeful and meaningful life.
Conversely, embracing a life situation that is toxic, abusive or dangerous is a clear risk. Embracing such things is to be avoided at any cost. Enter 'Change'
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If we are not prepared to embrace or leave a life situation then committing to changing our life situation is a powerful alternative. Many, indeed most life situations can be changed (despite what we convince ourselves of). We can change our money situations, we can change our behaviours, we can change our relationships, we can learn new habits, we can change our beliefs, we can change religions, we can change our world view, we can change our friends, we can absolutely change most things in our life.
The risk is that change takes personal courage and commitment. We are often our own biggest hurdle in changing our own lives. Our beliefs about ourselves often are our biggest hindrance.
Conversely, trying to change a life situation that we should just simply walk away from is not a sound solution. If we truly need to walk away....then simple do it. This then brings us to 'Leave'.
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Sometimes we need to take a step back and have a cool look at our life situation. Sometimes the very wisest thing to do is just leave. If it is toxic - leave. If it is abusive - leave. If it is violating your core values - leave. If it is making you unrelentingly sad or frightened - leave. If it simply is not working in any way, is not changeable, is not able to be embraced - leave. Just leave.
The risk to leaving is that it does not always feel very good - there can be regrets, sadness, anger and a sense of defeat. Many folk stay in bad life situations instead of leaving as they cannot face the temporary emotional fall out of leaving.
Conversely, not leaving a bad life situation will ultimately make our lives a mockery, a pointless existence and strip us of any shred of self-worth.
Ultimately, whatever we do - never just do nothing.
Take care folks and stay nice.