Monday, 6 June 2016

Don't Believe The Lies


Homemade mini baked cheesecakes - a favourite at our place.


Hi Folks

Popular culture heightens the importance of finding love and happiness. Consumerism then takes this message and plays on it by successfully appealing to our senses (all of them) to believe that happiness and love are definable, perpetual, lasting and can be bought with money – what a load of hooey!

Whilst people around us grasp out in a life-long desperate quest for love and happiness, there are others of us who know that many other emotional states are far more achievable, desirable and enduring. 


The old orange tree needs a good prune next season.


Try CONTENTMENT and SATISFACTION instead.

Contentment is a powerful emotion that can be achieved despite what is going on around us. Satisfaction is another powerful emotional state that can be achieved despite the circumstances we find ourselves in.  The same can be said for peacefulness too.  These states are very worthy of our consideration and are specific, measurable, achievable and timely.


Caramelising the flavours in the big slow cooker before adding
all the other ingredients


The facts are that happiness is ever only meant to come in flashes to ‘crown’ a moment or event. Sustained pure states happiness are mythical and counterproductive – like a drug that loses its effectiveness with overuse. The same can be said for love. It waxes and wanes naturally like breathing in and out, like the tides, like the moon or the seasons.  Yet, consumerism has latched onto these cyclic and special states of emotion and convinced us they are sustainably capturable and can be purchased.  It’s a lie that strips both happiness and love of their very effectiveness and beauty.


Dining room not big enough? Deck out the
garage instead.


Instead, work on the foundational emotional states on becoming content and satisfied.  Both these states are achievable and become the inner calm that exists despite the turmoil that may be apparent around us.  They become the bedrock of our souls upon which we can build the edifice of our lives. Satisfaction and contentment are emotions that can be grown and developed into enduring and stable states of being. 




Being content and satisfied will ensure our characters run deep like the roots of an old tree planted next to a river.

If we can shift this paradigm, then we can loosen the clutches of consumerism and the purposely manufactured state of anxiety it creates within us.  Just a thought.


Juicy chicken carcasses ready to be turned into delicious stock


Take care folks and stay nice.


Mr HM

17 comments:

  1. This is so true, love the idea of working on our attitude!

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    1. After years of chasing the wrong thing it is a relief to thumb one's nose at the urban myths

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  2. I find that stopping to feel gratitude for the good in my life helps bring on a feeling of peace, contentment and satisfaction. I think finding spaces in our day to stop and reflect on the good is really important.

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    1. ....that is a wise and practical approach Sherri

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  3. It is so easy to get weighed down with all the negativity. We have to find ways to be content and satisfied or we will become negative as well.

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    1. Yes Mel - reflecting the mood around us is an easy reaction. Choosing our reaction is certainly far more emotionally intelligent.

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  4. Wise words, indeed! I think it's resilience and hopefulness and gratitude that make a big difference. Our consumer culture doesn't promote that. It's based on wants and not needs; on always wanting more rather than being content with what one has and on that feeling that what one has may not be "good enough". Building up skills of self-reliance is a way of pushing back against that pervasive message.

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  5. Geeze Phil, you said it way better than I could have. You have hit the nail on the head. I think you should write a book about the consumer 'lie' and being content. It really is a state of mind--AND appreciating our blessings from God.

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  6. A great post. I couldn't agree more. Working hard at teaching my children to stop and think and understand the lies consumerism is wispering (often shouting) at us from every direction. It is not easy growing up in such a wealthy society as we have here where materialism means everything. All the more important to stop and think and choose a simpler more healthy and satisfying lifestyle. They will all benefit from my nagging in years to come, of that I am sure. All the best, from Pam in Norway

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    1. Thanks Pam - that is exactly what I feel too. i wonder how many images and messages we receive each day from consumerism? I'd hate to think.

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  7. Oh, I'm glad Rhonda put up a link here - I've been wondering and wondering. :)

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  8. I wondered what happened to you! The subject matter got me suspicious...very you...and your sign off line gave you away! Glad you haven't disappeared off the face of the planet after all.

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    1. It's all those Nancy Drew books of my youth!

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